Updated: Feb 25, 2019
If you remember the Narcissist vocabulary terms I posted in a previous blog the term “Discard” is what they do to you when they have used you up, generally without warning, or any obvious reason, other than you are the problem, and it's time to put you out with the trash.
So after systematically breaking down any self esteem I had for 7 years, and as I was consoling myself with a bag of Oreos, my ex “Narc” went to Florida for a tennis tournament with some friends, and oh, forgot to tell me he had also lined up job interviews. He waltzed into my office one day last November and announced that he had gotten a job in Florida and was moving in two weeks. I could come if I wanted, but he knew I couldn’t just up and leave my job, and the home I owned. (Operative word there is “I owned.”)
I was dumbfounded to say the least. I asked him how he got a job without an interview, and that is when he told me what he had done. When I asked him why, this is what he said. “I have always wanted to live in Florida. Plus, I don’t like living with cats (I have two), I don’t want to be in a relationship with anyone, and I want to live alone.” So with that, he packed his belongings, and left me the week before Thanksgiving 2017 to go start his new life, alone. He said I didn’t have to file for divorce, because even though we were going to live apart, we could still be together….What???? I now understand it was just so he could stay on my health insurance.
I ultimately decided it was best to file for divorce since he would be living in another state. He again said, we don’t need a piece of paper to stay together. Being the optimist blind to reality empath that I am, I somehow believed his load of crap.
Little did I know, just three short weeks later, he was going to move in with a 71 year old woman who had a room share on Craigslist, and into her bed just three weeks after that. Oh, and did I mention she has a cat?????