Re-Feathering Your Nest
Updated: Feb 25, 2019
The simple truth is you cannot heal in the same environment that broke you. You just can’t. The same environment and energy will only breed the same results. So if you are stuck in the home that you shared with your ex narc, you will have to do some energy shifting.
Paint is a very inexpensive way to change the energy up in a room. It doesn’t have to be the entire room, maybe just an accent wall, but introduce new colors into your space. Now is also the time to get rid of anything he left behind that you always hated or no longer need; like the old funky chair he left in the corner or his velvet painting of dogs’ playing poker.
These changes do not have to cost much. As I said, paint is very inexpensive, and you can find all kinds of good deals on-line for new bed linens, new lights/lamps, throw rugs, picture frames, and candles, really anything you want to bring into your home. This redecorating serves many purposes. It will shift the energy in your home so it doesn’t feel so sad there. It also keeps your mind busy as you re-feather your nest.
It’s a great time to bring elements into the home that your ex would not have liked. I have painted my computer room a beautiful shade of dark purple, added some funky junk store lamps, framed artwork, and incense, all things he would have hated. I finished it off with a new rug and small multi color chandelier. My home is starting to reflect who I am, and what I like. It no longer feels like the home I shared with him. It’s becoming the home I share with myself.
I even redecorated my bathroom area and made it all girlie for me. I moved in my jewelry armoire in the outer sink area so I can select my earrings to match my mood and dress before I head out the door. It sits right where he used to stand and groom his nose hairs, something I am really glad I no longer have to bear witness to.
So be creative, be expressive, and make your space your own! Tomorrow we work on our outer bodies, because we should already be working on the most important thing – our own hearts.